When I tell people I study how birth order affects our personalities and love life, I usually get empty looks. Isn’t it common sense? After more than twenty years of extensive research and analysis I have decided to share my knowledge with you and the world, because I know my expertise helps save and nurture successful relationships.
How It All Started
Way back when I married my first wife I was very young and naively thought the love of my life could prove to be nothing but the perfect partner. A year later we got divorced. A few years and lots of research later I could not see things clearer: We got separated not because we didn’t love each other enough, but because we just weren’t compatible. I am a first born. I tend to be conscientious, ambitious, organized, and quite dominant in relationships. I like to be in control of everything, including all aspects of my relationships. My first wife is a middle born. Although as a rule middles are able to have harmonious relationships with any birth-order partner, our particular combo was prone to particular issues. And, oh boy, did we have these.
Long story short, it is many years since we got divorced now. I now have my degree in psychology and have been practising as a dating & relationship consultant for quite some time. In particular, I am studying the effects of birth order on people’s love lives.Having already immersed myself fully in the research, some years ago I met my wife. She is a last-born child. Ah, the little sibs of the family. Beloved, treasured, and in many cases babied for much longer than their older siblings (and often by their older siblings), the stereotypical youngest of the brood tend to be less responsible and to more often have a devil-may-care attitude, with less propensity to take charge. According to a study on 3,000 families by Walter Toman, a professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Erlangen-Nuremberg in Germany, you have pretty good odds of a successful marriage if you’re a firstborn who marries a lastborn. You know what they say – the opposites attracts. So, me and my wife have been happily married for 22 years now.
Knowledge is power.- Francis Bacon
As an expert in psychology, relationship management, and couple intimacy, over the past 20 years I have worked with all kinds of couples. My background in psychology and my own extensive research on birth-order effects on relationships gives me a unique perspective. I have been looking at the complexities of relationships everybody experiences with their partners through the lens of my own extensive experience and the repeating patterns that I’ve been able to recognize. What I have found is that birth order of partners introduces a unique set of opportunities and challenges to every relationship, regardless of its type, length, or perceived harmoniousness.
When it comes to human psychology, there are no ‘universal’ rules, nor are there any universal characteristics that hold true for every person and every situation.Your birth order, however, does play a constant and significant role in your love life without you even realizing it.
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